Why does my boyfriend need to watch porn?
I’m a 22 year old woman and I just found out my boyfriend watches porn. I don’t get it because he says he’s satisfied with our sex life and still wants me sexually. This situation is really making me feel insecure. Why does my boyfriend need to watch this stuff?
Many women feel uncomfortable when they discover that their partner watches pornographic movies. Just like you, they can start doubting themselves and their ability to sexually satisfy their partner: “Isn’t he satisfied with our sex life? Does he still find me attractive? Does he prefer those porn actresses to me?”.
Know that for some men, pornography has always been a part of their masturbation ritual, whether they’re single or in a relationship. For others, watching porn is “me-time”, time when they treat themselves, decompress and can focus solely on pleasing themselves. And for other men, pornography is used to fulfill their need for sexual diversity. Porn movies allow them to live out a variety of sexual experiences and remain faithful to their partner.
If you want to know why your boyfriend watches porn, talk to him in an open and non-judgemental manner. That way, he’ll feel safe to share his thoughts and feelings with you on what he gets out of it. And who knows. It might also be an opportunity to learn more about each other’s sexuality and deepen your intimate relationship.
